People who know me personally know that I have a fair amount of experience in the field of health and fitness. I plan to delve into some of the important lessons, tidbits, and pertinent pieces of advice I have developed in my journey, but today I’m only going to briefly touch on the subject in an effort to communicate a more in depth observation on human beings.
Any dietician or personal trainer will tell you not to go grocery shopping when you are hungry. Even if you have never had a personal trainer or consulted a dietician, you may notice that if you shop for groceries when you are hungry, you will purchase all manner of high calorie foods in abundance, deviating from whatever plan to spend modestly and choose healthily that you had prior to entering the store. This is due to the body’s instinct to ensure that you survive. While the rational mind knows that you aren’t starving and that the next meal is a simple matter of impending preparation, the body does not, and influences your thinking to acquire and store food as if it were enduring a period of scarcity. What is important to understand is that our minds and bodies don’t just work this way when going to the grocery store, it works this way every day of our lives influenced by our basic drive for survival.
This sense of scarcity that our bodies process below our rational thought presents itself whenever we have illogical responses to potentially threatening conditions. For example, when discussions ensue regarding contributions the government makes to various welfare programs or relief efforts in the form of foreign aid, there are always going to be people who demand that resources stay with those that are “deserving”, like veterans. This occurs in relationships when people become possessive over their partners and demand more time and attention, feeling threatened by any sense that their lover has interests elsewhere. Feelings of scarcity are at the heart of petty arguments over the “disrespect” of having someone cut it front of us in line (literally and metaphorically). While it is not rational to think that aid to foreign countries compromises our ability to maintain our way of life, it is nevertheless a feeling that people are willing to fight to have validated. While it is not reasonable to think that our romantic partner is going to leave us every time they may come across another attractive person, it is nevertheless a feeling that is responsible for many lover’s quarrels. While it is not rational to think that someone cutting in front of us in line is going to result in us not getting whatever we are waiting for, it is nevertheless a feeling that can lead to a brawl.
The sense that there isn’t enough is one that is engrained in our DNA. This sense that there isn’t enough money, food, or love causes us to behave irrationally and make choices counter to our best interests. We lose friends, loved ones, jobs, and freedom over irrational behavior in which we feel that minor issues are life and death matters, and in hindsight we see that these events occurred during periods when our impulses overrode our rationality.
It is great advice not to buy groceries when you are hungry, because this advice takes our basal instincts and its power over our rational thoughts into account. This same advice can also serve to improve our conduct throughout our daily lives.
Don’t go out into the world hungry. Tell yourself that you are perfectly sated. Tell yourself that you have everything you need. Embrace your loved ones, maintain your home, and love your body.
Feel the fullness of your life.
Go out into the world feeling secure in what is important to you. Find out what it is you are most hungry for and feed yourself. Once you feed your soul that which it is craving most, you can then carry on in life feeling your abundance, no longer threatened by scarcity. Sate your soul. Feed your hunger before you conduct your affairs.